Some odd months ago, I remember I got talking with another American on some online chat about dating in Mexico.
Though I don’t know the guy personally because I never met him and have had little conversation with him prior….
We did have a brief exchange that left me with a new topic to consider for writing about when it comes to life in Latin America.
That is the topic of “age gaps” when dating Latinas in Latin America.
How common is it to see a large age gap in dating down here?
Is it more commonly accepted?
Well, in our conversation, we disagreed.
We both have lived in Mexico supposedly but in different parts.
On his end, he is a guy supposedly just a little bit older than me who doesn’t feel the need to settle down until he is at least 40 to 50 years old.
In his perspective, men “age like fine wine” and can get a hot, young chick in her 20s down here while he is 50.
Reminds me of this funny video here critiquing that idea.
Still, I cautioned against the idea a little bit for various reasons.
For one, I don’t believe it’s as commonly accepted in Latin America as he thinks it is.
Though how commonly it is accepted depends widely on where you are but Latin America as a whole is becoming more critical of that in my opinion.
On top of that, you have the obvious issues this guy would face….
Like choosing to start a family with kids at such an older age and the consequences of that.
To also quite possibly having an unrealistic view of how much “aging like fine wine” will happen in his case.
On top of that, you should be realistic as to how much your theoretical “hot 20 year old” will actually love you for you and not your money when you are 50.
And that’s assuming he has enough money to bring a girl like that into his life who won’t cheat on him, loves him for him and will have a family and all that with him.
Truthfully, while there are older men around the world who do settle down or at least date women much younger than them…
There is, as I hinted at, a part of me that does consider some of these guys to be a bit naïve as to how they think it’ll play out exactly.
Still, it’s a question nonetheless – are large age gaps more commonly accepted in Latin America than back home in the US when it comes to dating?
The short answer, in my opinion, is that they are but it depends widely on what part of Latin America you live in.
But let’s get to everything that comes to mind factor by factor.
No Age Gaps in America?
First, let’s not pretend that you can’t have a large age gap in dating in the US.
We have plenty of relaxed ideas when it comes to dating in my opinion as well.
Therefore, guys back home, if they had the financial capability, could get a larger age gap in dating.
Say the 50 year old dude with the hot 20 year old who fucks him.
We usually call that sugar dating.
Which exists in various parts of the world, including the US.
Now, as we see here, sugar dating is quite expensive in the US.
Thousands of dollars per month for a girl!
On top of that, you do have actual older dudes who marry the chicks that want them for their money obviously.
Like this example here of some dude who had like 30 or more years on his chick before he died.
Though I’m not privy to what their marriage was like, I’d take a wild guess at considering that maybe money had a factor there.
And that’s one thing I have considered when it comes to the type of guy wondering “are large age gaps acceptable” in dating in Latin America…
Which is that, given how it can be done in the US also, how many of these guys who are looking for this abroad simply don’t have the money to afford a hot American sugar baby?
Because I’m sure, if you got the money, you could keep one by your side in the US who is actually really hot.
Not judging but that was the first thing that came to my mind if all you are looking for is a hot piece of ass to fuck and tell you that she “loves you.”
Again, I’m pretty sure you could pay for a really hot chick in the US to do that without having to go to another country.
It almost seems to me like some of these guys, from an outside perspective, are basically exporting the job of being “the hot piece of ass” to foreign women due to “lower labor cost.”
Similar to large American businesses moving factories to China or Mexico because of cheaper wages.
While said dude could likely get some American woman to be his sugar baby, he obviously gets more bang for his buck south of the border.
It's easier to impress a Dominican gal living in a shithole neighborhood on 400 bucks a month if she lives in the DR instead of Miami where both her cost of living is way higher and where there are more local men in Miami who can compete with your salary than the average Dominican dude making nothing each month.
Above all, you get a 6 in the US for your sugar dating while spending maybe a thousand or two thousand each month where that same money could get you way more in a place like Colombia.
Let's move on.
Acceptable in Latin America?
Of course, we are not just talking about direct sugar dating.
The dude looking for a younger woman abroad might also be looking at marriage agencies instead of Seeking Arrangements.
Granted, if you are looking at a marriage agency, I imagine the selling point to a younger woman is going to be easier than to most “normal” chicks down here.
For obvious reasons that those in a marriage agency are obviously already interested in dating a foreign (and likely older) man.
Personally, I don’t see much difference between the marriage agency and the sugar dating.
Maybe if you find a genuine chick who isn’t all about the money, then sure.
But I imagine you probably bring other things to the table if that is the case.
If you are a stereotypical fat, ugly or older dude, then obviously money is going to more on her mind here if she happens to be a chick who would normally be with you.
Reminds me of that show 90 Day Fiancé like here.
90 day fiance
Still, outside of the marriage agencies and sugar dating, you do have actual chicks who are into dating older guys.
Though, like I said, it depends heavily on where you are in Latin America.
It’s a region that literally consists of two continents.
Now, to be fair, I can’t say that I am an “expert” on which regions find large age gaps to be more acceptable than others.
I can only say what I have observed as general trends.
And the general trends I have seen are the following:
First, most women are not aiming for significant age gaps of more than 10 years more or less.
Second, in larger cities, you’ll probably see more examples of what could be sugar dating but that actual marriages between a 40 or 50 year old and a 20 year old are more commonly accepted in poorer and more conservative areas.
In some poorer town in Nicaragua or Guatemala, the average woman is going to be thinking of marriage more seriously at a younger age like 18 or 20 than a woman in Buenos Aires that is instead thinking of going to school, getting a career, etc.
The woman who is thinking of the latter is usually not as interested in dating the man that has 20 to 30 years older on her.
The woman who is thinking of marriage at that young age though is obviously going to be more interested in a man that can provide.
That'd ideally be a man her age but men at 20 typically are less mature than women at the same age and have less money with no real career to speak of.
Third, you do have seemingly illegal interactions around some parts between men and women (especially in more conservative and lesser developed areas).
Meaning where a much older dude is with an underage girl.
There was an example I saw of that in the Dominican Republic in which a chick I got to know named Germania told me how she got pregnant years ago when she was a child at some very young age to a man much older than her.
As you can read about here.
On that note, it has come to my attention that, from my impression, it does seem like some parts of Latin America turn a “blind eye” to that type of fucked up behavior.
Here in Mexico, you also had news made about the common practice of indigenous underage girls being sold into marriage to older men that you can see here.
Though most of Latin America isn’t that fucked up.
Though I also live in Mexico City currently and not some fucked up place like Sosua of the DR where I've been told that is unfortunately more of a common sight in public (much older dude with questionably legal girl).
For likely a combination of reasons though (bribed police, shit judicial system, etc), these illegal circumstances are not always prosecuted.
Which is obviously different than the example we have been discussing of the 50 year old with the 25 year old sugar baby.
But, either way, when speaking of age differences, that should be brought up since it is an issue that is related to the topic.
Fourth, based on my suspicions only after some time here, I feel like there’s an economic component to it also that has been referenced before.
But, generally speaking, I do feel that chicks from poorer backgrounds are more likely to consider an older guy than chicks who are at least from a comfortable background.
Regardless of if she is looking for a marriage right now or not.
You especially see that among a lot of the foreign men looking for a woman down here that is much younger and so many of them tend to be poor as fuck living in a shithole neighborhood or city.
90 day fiance
Still, those are just some largely basic observations or beliefs, let’s get into the meat of it all.
So Large Age Gap?
Well, I can’t say I’ve had any “large age gaps” when it comes to dating since I don’t fit the bill of a overweight 50 year old with a bald head looking for a hot 25 year old.
I do like hot 25 year olds though!
But the age gap isn’t “large” since I’m 26.
The largest “gap” I ever had was 10 years when I was 23 and fucked a chick who was 32 or 33.
In fact, I’ve been with at least 2 women who had 10 years on me.
One was a dentist named Alejandra in Mexico as you can read about here who happened to have a boyfriend.
Another was a chick named Morena who, if I remember right, I think she was in her early 30s also.
So, in a way, I guess I’ve had “large age gaps” in the opposite direction.
I wasn’t really dating though or seen out in public with either one of those though.
They were both just hookups.
But outside of myself…
Yeah, I’ve seen a few older guys with younger women down here.
Though a vast majority of couples I've seen outside over my years here have been couples that seemed to be in a similar age range.
I do remember though a few days ago seeing some older man with a younger Asian looking gal (though I'm not sure if they were dating or not).
On a day to day basis though, I just don't see couples with that obvious age difference outside but they do come up once in a while.
What about among my local friend groups or gals I have dated? Any gal coming to parties I've been to where she happened to have a 50 year old grandpa back home that was her husband?
When I was dating my last Mexican girlfriend, I do remember asking her though about if she knows of any chicks with significantly older men.
And she comes from a more rural part of Mexico in a small town of Hidalgo state.
From what she told me, she only knew one chick personally that was married to a man 20 years older than her.
And that’s it.
Among all the other Latino friends I have made down here…
I don’t remember ever being told about, introduced to or seeing anyone in any social circle where a young chick would show up to maybe a party with a much older guy.
Or that any significantly older guys were ever mentioned as being with them.
Above all, it really seems like most of the “older man with younger woman” thing is either sugar dating shit, prostitution, marriage agency stuff or older man (foreign or local) playing "captain save a hoe" that he thinks is rescuing from a shithole area that is poor as fuck as I wrote here.
With her, in any of those situations above outside of prostitution, possibly is cheating on him as she finds men who don't need viagra to be more attractive for fucking on the side.
Final Verdict: Is a Big Age Difference in Dating in Latin America Common?
So what’s the verdict, jack?
Can I, as a 90 year old American man who has to shoot Viagra into my limp dick through a needle, able to get a REALLY HOT 25 year old to FUCK me and LOVE me?!
To spend the remainder of my 8 months with before my dementia ruins the remainder of my brain?
Well, you can buy it!
Sugar dating, marriage agencies and all that jazz.
My verdict is this:
First, a 40 or 50 year old man could, if he wanted to, get a Latina who is 20 years younger to be with him.
But, using common sense, you’re still going to need money to bring to the table most likely (especially as, if we're being honest, you likely don't have much in common with her and can't fuck her as well as someone her age can).
So money expectations are going to be higher on you.
A little more expectations on her end versus if she was dating a man her age.
Still, though it varies by what part of Latin America you are in, I do feel that the 40 year old with the 25 year old couple is a little more common down here than in the US.
For one, it's easier for foreign men to get that down here as they get "more bang for their buck"and can more easily impress local women than women back home with less money.
And also because of other reasons mentioned about how poorer and more conservative areas have more of this for the local 40 year old man looking to marry a 20 year old that gringos aren't likely to go to.
It is what it is.
In the real world though with more “normal relationships,” I just don’t see large dating gaps down here on average.
At least not as much as some guys talk about where they think it's a common sight in public when, in my experience, it isn't.
Granted, I spent most of my days now in a more liberal place like Mexico City but I have been around to most Latin countries.
Sill, this is all just my opinion and my observations.
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