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Moving on from Latina Love in Latin America

Published December 21, 2020 in Dating Information - 3 Comments

Back when I was living in Pachuca, Mexico…

I met this white Mexican chick who happened to work in the same apartment that I was living at in my first month there.

Well, I didn’t live there too long…

As I was there for just about a month or two before relocating to a nearby apartment in Pachuca.

Basically, the landlord I had a deal with wasn’t able to give me a place to live in for the first month or two in my time in Pachuca…

But had family who also had a place to stay and it was a decent place for me to stay in until she had a place available…

Anyway, that’s how it worked out but this family also happened to have a store located in front of the door to the larger building where they rented out apartment buildings.

And they happened to hire this one particular young looking woman who worked there in their store.

We didn’t have much of an interaction during the time that I was living in that specific apartment…

But after I moved to a nearby apartment owned by the apartment owner mentioned above…

I figured it was safe enough to make a move on her when I could since I wasn’t living in the same building that she was working in.

I didn’t feel comfortable to do so beforehand for obvious reasons as I had a girlfriend before I moved somewhere else and also because I don’t like to make the move on someone in a “working position.”

Meaning someone who is working a job on the hour as of right now – doesn’t seem fair since they are paid to be nice that you are talking with them.

Anyway, I had broken up with my girlfriend at the time by then and was talking with her outside of work hours when I had already moved…

But I knew it wouldn’t work out.

I knew we wouldn’t have anything serious as I had no plans to live long term in Pachuca.

As I wanted to move back to Mexico City….

And even when I lived in Mexico City, I had similar issues….

Marianne

For example, a year and a half more or less before meeting the chick mentioned above….

I met a Peruvian chick named “Marianne” according to my notes.

A very “non-Latino” sounding name to me but maybe she came from a background of upper class Latinos who try to be gringo that I wrote about here

Anyway, she was a very sweet girl…

I liked her a lot but….

Simply put, I didn’t want a relationship.

One night in particular…

She noticed that I was still using Tinder (which is how we met)….

Back in those days, I remember Tinder had some function that could tell you if a user you matched with was recently active.

They stopped that for a while…

But, as of December 2020, they seem to be using that feature on their app again unless you disable it while also paying for Tinder Plus…

Anyway, that was that – we were not in a relationship but Marianne noticed that I was recently active on Tinder in that specific day and had an issue with it.

And, to be honest, I wasn’t interested in being in a relationship with her nor did I promise as such.

But, in hindsight, I feel she started to grow feelings for me as we fucked around a few times and wanted to see if I would be exclusive to her.

Traveling with Love

To be honest, I have felt the same.

For example, when I was meeting up with the Bolivian chick named Mariana.

I fell in love with her to be honest.

But it wasn’t meant to be.

I was going to be leaving Bolivia quite soon and we had a final time together at a bar having some drinks and some last minute sex afterwards at some motel.

As well, I have met other chicks like that down here…

Chicks like Mariana who I never had anything serious with but with which we enjoyed the company of each other.

To chicks also that we had something more serious with – such as Marcela of Colombia.

A Colombian chick that I had a more serious relationship with that had to end due to the eventual long distance nature of our relationship from me leaving Colombia to finish my education in the US.

Anyway, this all brings up a certain point that I felt should be mentioned for those looking for love abroad…..

Love with Distance

I remember when I was living in Xela, Guatemala…

I went often to a small internet café to connect to Facebook as the internet was terrible at the homestay that I was staying at…

More about homestays in Latin America here

Either way, I went to this internet café often…

And one day in particular about two weeks before my flight out of Guatemala back to the US….

This older man tapped me on the shoulder and said in English – “I think she likes you…”

And there was this younger Guatemalan chick who was pulling on his arm to stop him from saying what he said.

Now the Guatemalan chick was a local worker at this internet café as I saw her working there often.

I went there often enough due to the terrible internet at my homestay.

And I remember my first time ever going to this internet café…

A month and a half or so before this happened…

I asked this same chick to help set up a computer for me with the login code….

And she bent over in front of me and had one of the greatest asses I ever saw…

Granted, being from Iowa, that’s isn’t much of a compliment…

Especially not after my time visiting the DR, Colombia or Brazil…

But in those days….

Her ass was impressive.

Anyway, when her older man tapped me on the back about her…

I didn’t know what to say and nothing went from there.

Especially as I was going to be leaving Guatemala in like a week and a half..

Had she made the move earlier on me or had I made the move on her earlier…

I would have met up with her outside of the café…

And shit…

Maybe I would have gotten her pregnant and we would’ve already had…..

A little Catholic American-Guatemalan family of 20 children in Xela…..

Anyway, with her, she would end up becoming another Latina chick who I would either have sex with or want to have sex with but couldn’t due to distance…

Due to travel…

Travel & Chicas

Like all of this chicks mentioned above here…

I remember another one that was similar…

An Argentine chick named Debbie that lives in Buenos Aires…

I had one date with her but wasn’t able to close the deal.

Anyway, after I had left…

We were talking over Whatsapp and ended up sending each other nudes.

So maybe I could have fucked her but it never happened.

And, beyond fucking her, she seemed pretty cool.

Had it been possible, I could have seen something more serious happen with her.

But this is all an issue you might experience when traveling around Latin America…

When it comes to those looking for sex or love down here…

For those who plan on traveling around from country to country…

If you plan on being sexually active with women down here while moving around from country to country…

Then you will likely encounter the same situation as I have been referring to above time and time again…

Where you meet a specific chick that is great for sex or love…

Be it a chick who is great for fucking such as Lizeth here or Deborah here

Or any of the chicks above who you grow deeper feelings for beyond sex…

And simply you have to move on – you got plans to move to another country…

Be that home or another country in the world like some other Latin country…

And you leave the chick who you were in love with or had great sex with…

In my experience, leaving chicks who you had great sex with isn’t as hard as leaving the ones you loved.

Because you know you will find quick enough someone else who is as great sexually as Lizeth or Deborah….

Eventually…

But the one you loved – such as Mariana or Karla or Marianne whoever – well, that takes more time to find again.

And perhaps you felt reservations to take on the one you loved for fears of “not missing out” and wanting to fuck more chicks before settling down.

I can’t tell you if that is the right decision but I can tell you that quite a few men I know in that situation have had doubts about leaving behind the “one they loved” to fuck around some more.

But I will leave that up to you to decide.

Either way, when you do travel around down here from Latin country to Latin country….

You will end up leaving behind chicks of both qualities – those who were great to fuck and those you loved.

It happens.

Recently, I fucked a chick named Karla…

A Mexican chick who had a PhD in Biology and who I got along with very well.

We had great chemistry which was best above all.

Someone you can read more about here very briefly.

But I ended up not pursuing nothing more with her and was honest with after we fucked…

“I’m just looking to fuck….” I told her afterwards.

Anyway, she understood but wanted a man to settle down with her.

I didn’t want to lead her on forever and ever making her think that I would eventually be her boyfriend.

I already got what I wanted by fucking her anyway…

And I didn’t feel right to lead her on – let her be free and find the man to settle down with her after trying to “win her over” for over 6 months in hopes of getting her pussy….

Though I got it on the first date…

Still, while I shouldn’t make fun of men like that…

I get why she wants someone like that to eventually have a family with…

And I simply wasn’t down in the moment or now to have a family with someone.

So I figured it was best to let her go and let her know the truth.

Maybe she found the right man or maybe not – but I wish her the best of luck.

But it’s all similar.

Similar to other foreigners dating down here…

From those moving from country to country and leaving the Mariana’s behind…

To those living in a country for a longer tem and having to tell the Karla’s of the world that they will have to keep looking…

It does disappoint you also as you like some of these chicks…

And might even leave doubts – I know one older American guy who has had his doubts about leaving behind so many chicks down here and thinking “what could have been” as he more greatly considers having kids one day…

Anyway, it’s a part of life down here for those who hook up often enough….

“What could have been”

As you moved from one country to the next…

Or left behind one “ready to settle down chick” to the next…

I can’t tell you how to live your life but I can tell you about this one complication of living down here for the younger man such as myself.

It’s your decision to keep playing the game or to settle down.

No judgement either way.

I’ve known plenty of miserable married folks and some miserable bachelors.

You know yourself best.

Either way, that’s an aspect of living down here – especially for those who move around from country to country.

Got any questions or comments?

Drop them below.

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Thanks.

Best regards,

Matt

3 comments

Dazza - December 22, 2020 Reply

Karla, Marianne, Marina, Lizeth etc – they’re the wrong girls and you’re in the wrong country to find Miss Right.

Stacey/Kimberley/Gretel/Hyacinth/Tracey (I don’t know what girls names are popular in Iowa…) the prom queen from high school, the girl who dated the High School football hero, the one you had a massive crush on and she never looked at you the twice nor did her equally hot but bitchy friends.

You’ll never find Stacey down there in Mexico you’ll just meet up and fuck more Juana’s/Juanita’s/Rosa’s etc that can be pumped and dumped because what you’re after is not there – it is back in Iowa, a woman who can share cerebral matters, one who shares culture – you don’t seem satisfied with fucking loads of women down where you are and it is plain to see why.

You want that connection that they can never ever give you. One day you will probably want more and you’ll go home to find her. I don’t know if you will or you won’t but maybe Stacey will be waiting, might have a kid and a divorce or better still, she realises you were the guy to make her life better and was waiting for you all along. Good luck either way.

    Matt - December 22, 2020 Reply

    “Karla, Marianne, Marina, Lizeth etc – they’re the wrong girls and you’re in the wrong country to find Miss Right.”

    I’m not sure there is any particular country to find “Miss Right” nor do I believe that Miss Right exists. We all have our imperfections but women abroad are not that much different in my experience than women from Iowa. There are obvious cultural and linguistic differences though I don’t find those too challenging (unless she was from Brazil, well, my Portuguese is shit).

    Either way, I’m not looking for Miss Right either in the moment. As I wrote in other articles, I don’t want to get married or have children as of right now and I’m not really positive that is for me in the future either. But that’s another topic anyway.

    “Stacey/Kimberley/Gretel/Hyacinth/Tracey (I don’t know what girls names are popular in Iowa…)”

    Lol, funny. Kimberley is quite right. I don’t know too many Traceys but I feel that is an older woman name. Stacey is common enough. Though Gretal sounds like some chick from the 1950s lol.

    The paragraph after though seems like something written in a Red Pill book in terms of your use of language — the “stacy” who is a highschool prom chick or whatever. Is Chad or Tyrone in there also? lol.

    My high school chick was actually a chick named Jennifer and also another one whose name was Christina. Looking back on them, they were not right for me either but I wouldn’t say they are any more enjoyable than the chicks down here.

    You could carry that further and go into my time in college — the Arena, the Katherine, some other chick I went on a few dates but I can’t remember her name….

    I wouldn’t say, from my personal experience, that they were any more enjoyable than the Latina chicks down here.

    Sure, we shared a common culture in a way and also a language — though, being honest, I don’t think the cultural differences between me and Marcela for example were too huge (the Colombian chick).

    I speak Spanish fairly well and don’t have any issue understanding what is said to me. Culturally, there are some differences but I’d say it is based more on class that is the issue. That could be another article topic also that maybe I could expand on since a comment here wouldn’t do that justice.

    Though I get your point — that it would be easier to connect with someone from the same culture and language. Though I don’t think it is as big of an issue in my experience overall. Again, I’d say class is the bigger issue here but I’ll probably expand on this later.

    “you don’t seem satisfied with fucking loads of women down where you are and it is plain to see why.”

    “You want that connection that they can never ever give you.”

    I disagree on this. I’m fine with sleeping around. The more personal issues I carry in life have nothing to do with that and were with me going back to when I was a child. In terms of seeking a bigger connection, I disagree on that also. I have friends that I talk with when we hang out at times but I also don’t agree in finding happiness in another partner.

    I’ve been in relationships before in Iowa, Ohio and in various Latin countries — none of them ever brought me happiness though I wasn’t looking for that specifically anyway with any of them.

    Though my opinion on marriage and having children — as I wrote about in my “Are Latinas Faithful?” article is a bit more critical. As I hinted at before, I’m not interested at all in settling down.

    Especially if I don’t want kids, I don’t see much reason to ever marry either.

    So I can’t see myself traveling back to Iowa for that reason or any reason yet for the foreseeable future. Of course, life can always change and it does. About 15 years ago, I never would have imagined that I would be traveling around Latin America and Europe. But here we are.

    Either way, the point of this article was more to explore the issue that some gringos have when it comes to dating and hitting the road and/or sleeping around.

    The reason I wrote it is because I know of one guy who is considering heavy to move to Paraguay for various reasons. But one thing he used to comment on from time to time was how he at times wondered if it was a good idea to leave certain women behind as he has now hit his 30s.

    For a lot of younger expats especially (those with a bigger sex drive), it is a theme that you might come across likely over time — for most younger expats anyway since I imagine most actually do wants kids.

    Anyway, thanks for the comment!

    Tessa - April 28, 2021 Reply

    ive felt the same

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