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When Gringos Find Love for the First Time in Latin America

Published August 20, 2020 in Bolivia , Dating Information - 0 Comments

As I wrote about before....

There was an American guy I met named John.

Who was from Wisconsin.

Now, as I said elsewhere…

He was a guy who studied engineering in college and had just graduated.

And was spending a few times in Cochabamba, Bolivia working for the same NGO that I was.

Mostly as a way to travel abroad for a few months before jumping into the real world of work and making a living.

And he seemed like a nice guy.

After all, I’m from Iowa.

So anyone from the Midwest is relatable to me in some ways…

And, as you know, everyone says that folks from Wisconsin are nice.

And he was on the same boat as I was – not having much experience in Latin America but traveling around for the purpose of traveling and getting life experience abroad while still young enough to do so.

As I was also during those years as back then I was mostly interested in traveling around.

So we were both living anyway in this Bolivian city called Cochabamba…

And then came around 4th of July…

The Gringo 4th of July Celebration in Bolivia

On this night, we were celebrating 4th of July…

And there were plenty of drinks…

Good music….

Plenty of fun people…

And we were playing some game on a table…

Where the game was explained by this other American named Richard if I remember right…

Or something like that….

It’s been about 6 years or more so I don’t remember his name perfectly…

But he introduced some game that was “Americans vs. Vietnam”

Where bot sides would toss a ball into the other the cups of the other side…

And for those playing as America, it was quite difficult as the Vietnam side could keep “reviving” their cups.

Was supposed to represent how the US struggle in winning the Vietnam War despite how many people were killed…

Granted, there was some way that the American side could win but I forgot…

Either way, this American-Vietmanese chick who happened to be there noticed what they were playing and yelled…

“That’s racist! What the fuck!”

Anyway, she sure cancelled that game pretty quick…..

And over the course of the party going on to celebrate 4th of July…

I came across this chick whose heritage was Bolivian-Mexican.

Anyway, I wasn’t that interested in her beyond just chilling and getting to know each other at this party..

And eventually went my own way to get another drink…

Well, the party went on and I noticed that John was hitting it off pretty well with her.

Witch was a little bit unusual since he didn’t seem the type to do well with women in general.

He was a little bit awkward socially…

But they did have a connection.

So they were chatting well…

And…

Next week or sooner after this party was over…

I ended up walking into the main office of this NGO where we were working at.

I often stuck around there as there were other expats in this building to hang out with and soot the shit with..

And John was on the phone..

Now they had a domestic phone and an international phone for different types of calls…

In case you wanted to talk with your family back home – they were quite accommodating as I used that phone a few times back then to talk with my parents.

And John was on the international phone.

And as I walked into the building…

I overheard most of his conversation with his parents…

“Mom….Dad…..i have a girlfriend!”

Granted, he only knew this chick for a week!

But, based on the tone of this voice, it felt like this dude was ready to pop the question to her!

Now, to be fair, John wasn’t the most masculine type of guy there is.

If I were to guess, I don’t think he ever messed around with too many women before his arrival to Bolivia.

Maybe he did…

Anything is possible…

But he did come across as more of the “nerdy” or “geeky” type.

A nice guy overall but not necessarily the type of dude to be doing well with women.

And it was to my surprise that all of a sudden he had a girlfriend in Bolivia!

Despite only knowing her for a week…

From what I found out later, he ended up staying a bit longer in Bolivia than originally planned…

He was meant to come back to the US to pursue a career but his new love kept him down there for a bit longer than 2 months…

Though, did his love work out and is he still there?

Did he ever marry her?

I have no idea – never kept up with the telenovela for that long.

But John’s case is not too unusual in my opinion….

Here’s what I mean….

Coming Across Love in Latin America

The case of John is not unusual…

There are men who come down here from the US…

Who get wrapped up in the fun of living abroad…

And finding a woman down here who excites them…

Perhaps they feel real love for her…

And on top of that, perhaps she even is more attractive and more likeable than the typical chick that they come across in the US…

For reasons that you can look into as I wrote about here for why gringos tend to have more dating success down here than in the US…

Of course, it might be concerning to the parents if this were to happen.

You don’t necessarily want your child to give up on career development to live in some country that you might consider to be a shit hole…

But, on the other hand, you don’t want him (or sometimes her) to feel sad for giving up on a love that was meant to be in South America…

…..Right?

Well, it’s an interesting scenario that at times happens.

Most commonly with gringos who are new to Latin America and the dating scene down here.

Of course, I would side with the parents on this one – don’t give up your career for a random girl, junior!

But, alas, I know my warning and the concerns of his parents will not prevail against the heart strings of a gringo who is new to finding love in Latin America…

And also maybe the excitement for getting laid for the first time in a long time with a woman who isn’t obese….

Though if said American (or Canadian, European, etc) is young…

I assume there isn’t too much damage in pursuing love abroad as even if it doesn’t work…

Well, you are young anyway and can always recover…

Move back home and take your career more seriously.

Or whatever you choose to do – your life, not mine.

Either way, as I said before…

It’s an interesting case to see young foreigners travel down here and go through that phase of falling in life…

And see how it plays out.

Entertaining also – I mean, only a week John and you two are already a couple?!?!

But who I am to judge…

If you got any experiences yourself with this, let me know below in the comment section.

And follow me on Twitter here.

Thanks.

Best regards,

Matt

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